For Emma...
Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? I'm sure you have, but likely not in the context I'd like to discuss. Here's a little info about hubby and I and our lives. We are coming up on four years of marriage. Prior to that we dated since I was 17. Really in the scheme of things, that leaves very little life we will have spent apart when we someday leave this earth. Four things I've narrowed down that have made our marriage not only work, but bring us a lot of joy, are these: Our marriage is founded on... 1. Belief in Gods plan for us 2. Mutual Respect 3. Trust in one another 4. Common goals For the purpose of this post I'd like to focus on the fourth: common goals. So, the law of attraction. I started watching a documentary awhile back (that I actually never finished) buuuut the documentarian highlighted a very specific idea. Our lives are woven into the fabric of the universe and a force very much at play is the law of attraction. Translation: When we have fixed in our minds positive things that we want and we focus on those things, the law of attraction causes the universe to grant us those things. I thought this seemed pretty hokey when I heard it. I mean come on? Envision what you want and you'll get it? A bunch of baloney...or is it? Let's test the theory. When Jordan and I got married we had some basic ideas of what we wanted for our future. But honestly, I think most of it was the, "I love you and can't envision my life without you! Let's get married and be happy forever!" Don't judge. I won't go on. You get the gist. As life progresses though you realize that there are a lot of big adult questions and concerns i.e. how are we going to pay rent? What do we do when we can't get jobs? What am I going to study in school? What's going to bring satisfaction as a career? When should we have kids? Will we be able to have kids? If we do are we even the kind of people that can raise relatively normal kids? Does he stay home? Do I? Do we want to travel forever? etc. And as the questions fly so do the doubts and worries. Then you do finally make a plan that you kind of, sorta, maybe feel like will work out okay and out come the naysayers that want to tell you every way your plan isn't going to work. Key point: it's hard! That was four years ago. Since that time Jordan and I have made and changed A LOT of plans due to life, passions, even the change in seasons sometimes. One thing has remained consistent though. Those things we have prioritized in our lives and said, "I love you and can't envision my life without you! Let's get married and be happy forever!" about have come. Examples: 1. When we got married, Jordan had no idea what he wanted to study in University. But he knew he wanted to go. And he knew he wanted a career that would allow him to help people. Recently we met an incredible woman who works as an addiction counselor. She found out Jordan and I write songs and compose music together so she asked us to come and play for a group of her patients to illustrate the benefits of creativity. After having that experience together on top of previous interest Jordan decided he wants to be a Marriage counselor. He has since started his classes and loves it! This after a couple years in school and about five "major" changes. A series of small experiences that led to one big experience, all leading to a desire we have had since we got married, and right on time too (he just finished all of his generals and electives). 2. I'm a stay-at-home mom and with Jordan starting full-time school again we decided it would be best for our family if he quit his full-time job. That left us both wondering, how are we going to pay the bills? This is a big kid question that is never far from the brain. We talked at length and decided we want to really start pursuing my photography business. About three weeks ago out of the blue, before Jordan quit his job, someone stopped by our house and invited us to attend a workshop on self-reliance. You can attend one of four courses for a period of 3 months. We discovered that one of the course titles is How to Develop Your Business. The friend who stopped had no idea what was happening occupationally, educationally, or financially with us. 3. This semester for school we thought we would be required to pay Jordan's tuition because our pell grants were scheduled to come through in different semesters. We have savings but that is a relative term when you're a student. We had been giving it some thought. Jordan was looking for a part time and I was pursuing a work-from-home option to be sure everything would work out. Needless to say, it caused some stress. Jordan recently got online to figure out what the expenditures would be and it turns out the grant did come through this semester. This will give us the wiggle room and time we need to build the business we are actually interested in while also taking care of our small family. Some people might call these coincidence. I disagree. Everyday we have the choice to live passive or active lives. We can choose to be engaged. We can be deliberate about what we want and pursue those things. In fact, that's the only way we will reach our full potential. We weren't put on the earth to exist and then die. We were put here to live! It seems a funny thing to have an earth dotted with a whole mess of people who have every opportunity open to them, especially in this country, and that never take advantage of it simply because they don't ask the question, "what do I want in life?" Let me clarify that I'm not saying life is always hunky dory. Last week our car was broken in to. They stole our GPS and an iPod (that's the second iPod I've had stolen from a car. Maybe I'll stop leaving them in there now.) Did I ask the universe for that? Definitely not. But the next day while driving someone let us cross in front of them in to the turn lane, I was able to complete a butt kicking hike, and I saw a beautiful orange butterfly. There will always be things to combat a crummy experience but there is nothing that combats the stagnancy of an unintentional life. Be deliberate! You have potential! Make plans! Dream big! and know that the Universe is there to help you along in your pursuits. It wants you to succeed! You'll find the more razor focused your desires are, the clearer the response will be. At least, that's been my experience.
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